WHOA!!! What did this guy just say? Before you go to stone me (lol) please read this blog all the way through.
Like most, I have had my fair share of good and bad Valentines Days. One of the best Valentines Days, I actually spent with my oldest son at an Outback Steakhouse in Inverness, Florida. I was single at the time and raising my son on my own. I did not have a special lady in my life so my son, Zack, and I made the trip to Outback Steakhouse. When we arrived it was a PACKED house. Zack and I were told it would be a 2 hour wait. Zack had his little heart set on Outbacks Mac-N-Cheese, so we decided to tough it out and wait.
Sitting there, seeing all these couples celebrating this one day/holiday during the year got me thinking…what if we celebrated our significant others more then just February 14th every year? Better yet, what if we celebrate them more then just Valentines Day, birthdays, Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Sweetheart Day, Anniversary’s and even Christmas Day? Would our relationships with our significant others be stronger if we celebrated them and us, more then a couple days a year?
Let me say that I have zero issues with couples celebrating Valentines Day what so ever. My wife, Katie, and I have made a decision that Valentines Day is not that important to us. I will explain this shorty but first lets get some history on this holiday.
The first Valentine was posted around 1806. Almost one billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year on or near February 14 with females purchasing 85% of the cards. This is second only to the number of Christmas cards sent. Based on this research its obvious that women, in general, treat Valentines Day as a very special day. The first Valentine sent in the United States was in the 1840’s by Esther Howgald. Most of us enjoy “spoiling” a loved one on Valentine’s Day. Sending gifts and cards conveys love, affection, and friendship.
There is a lot of debate on how Valentines Day became a celebrated holiday. History shows that the holiday is based on Saint Valentine who served in third century Rome. Saint Valentine defied the orders made by Emperor Claudius and helped fellow Christians escape torture. Because of this, Saint Valentine was killed for his faith in Christ.
Valentine died in approximately A.D. 270. Others claim the Church may have decided to celebrate in mid February to “Christianize” the pagan Roman celebration Lupercalia. Even if this is the case I see no reason why Valentines Day cannot be celebrated for love. Especially seeing as Saint Valentine loved Jesus so much that he gave his life as a martyr.
Mine and Katie’s first Valentines Day together was in 2012, 2 months before we got married. I got Katie a nice necklace and she made me a chocolate peanut butter pudding. BY FAR THE BEST VALENTINES GIFT EVER!!!!! LOL! From the beginning of mine and Katie’s relationship, even before engagement and then marriage, we were determined to make and keep Jesus Christ the center of our relationship. And we have and will continue to do so. We have both noticed that the more we grow in our personal relationship with Jesus, the more we grow in our relationship with each other. And it dawned on us…we can celebrate our love for each other EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!
I do not need a holiday to remind me to get my wife flowers or other gifts. Katie does not need a holiday to show me respect, love and to encourage me. We both make the decision to do this every single day. Why? Because we love Jesus and we love each other.
1st Corinthians 13:4-7 really breaks down how we can love. Not just our significant others but anybody we come in contact with. True love for people is patient and kind. We are patient with those who are hurting or broken, we show kindness at all times even when we may be frustrated. We do not let jealousy get in the way of our love for others. We shouldn’t brag about it either. We should brag on God and encourage and compliment those we love. When we show true Christ like love to others then it is not demanding. We never make ultimatums. We love because Jesus first loved us (1st John 4:19). If God forgives our sins we should do the same. When we love others we rejoice when they rejoice, and we hurt when they hurt. Love always wins out and endures every circumstance. Now this kind of love should be celebrated every day.
I am by no means saying that we should all stop celebrating Valentines Day. If you choose to, then that’s great. Me personally, I will celebrate my personal relationship with Jesus daily. And seeing as He brought my greatest prize (besides my relationship with Him), Katie, into my life, I will celebrate her daily as well. Katie…I love you my bride. You are my queen and deserve to be spoiled and held in extreme honor daily. I consider it a privilege to be called your husband.